Good advice. I'll add this (m)

Posted on September 22, 2026 at 12:47:10 AM by wolvalum (edited September 22, 2026 at 12:48:45 AM)

At the end of last school year, this principal put our daughter's para under HR investigation. She was listed as an emergency contact for our daughter and circumstances required her to be able to take our daughter home from school. Shouldn't be a problem at all. This principal and whoever reported our para for investigation thought otherwise.

Her para got absolutely spooked by the special meeting she was commanded to attend this afternoon. She doesn't need this job. She doesn't do it because she needs the money or hassle, she just loves our daughter.

This whole episode today, combined with what she dealt with in May, has her questioning whether any of this is worth it. We're texting her, even though we "can't," and trying to keep her engaged.

This is obnoxiously stupid and I'm ready to unload.

Back to the board

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I'm seething tonight about our youngest daughter's middle school and the changes they're making to special needs accommodations (m) - By wolvalum September 21, 2026 at 11:35:41 PM
- They're trying to restrict text communication from one adult to another? Maybe the problem is parents overwhelming paraeducators with texts? Then permit one-way texts only.* - By ftb September 22, 2026 at 12:23:59 AM
  - What we were told was that since kids are no longer allowed to have access to phones in school, they're forcing all of the teachers to follow that standard. Good example, and all that* - By wolvalum September 22, 2026 at 12:25:32 AM
    - Depending on your wireless carrier, the email could be sent directly to your cell phone as a text. - By mjhollen September 22, 2026 at 12:36:04 AM
      - If it wasn’t clear, the X’s are your 10 digit phone number.* - By mjhollen September 22, 2026 at 12:37:21 AM
        
        Good advice. I'll add this (m) - By wolvalum September 22, 2026 at 12:47:10 AM
- Very sorry wolvalum* - By brick September 22, 2026 at 12:15:04 AM
- I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. We text with my son’s primary ASD teacher and at least two of the paras all the time. I can’t imagine not having that communication.* - By gbmcq September 22, 2026 at 12:02:41 AM
  - Thanks, Trevor. I really hope we can resolve this through the next in-person meeting. I don't want to go nuclear and involve the school board, but I'll absolutely do it* - By wolvalum September 22, 2026 at 12:15:05 AM
- Bureaucratic CYA bullshit. Sorry you’re dealing with that.* - By WOK September 21, 2026 at 11:50:54 PM
  - Thanks, man. I get it, I'm housebroken by corporate life. Still sucks when it lands in my lap and impacts our kiddo directly* - By wolvalum September 21, 2026 at 11:55:53 PM
- Did she note any reasons for the changes?* - By jjwalker September 21, 2026 at 11:43:28 PM
  - Like the text changes seem very very different from the pick up/drop off time timing. What happened to cause these changes, and why?* - By jjwalker September 21, 2026 at 11:46:08 PM
    - If I assume positive intent on her part, she's trying to enforce consistency across all students and parents(m) - By wolvalum September 21, 2026 at 11:50:27 PM
      - The one size fits all bureaucrat. Doesn't trust their own judgement in making decisions case by case, gotta have one rule for everything... - By jjwalker September 21, 2026 at 11:54:51 PM
  - No, but she thanked us for our understanding and flexibility as they review and realign their expectations for the paraeducators. Fuck that mealy-mouthed bullshit* - By wolvalum September 21, 2026 at 11:46:08 PM
- Can you go over her head to the district?* - By Rich September 21, 2026 at 11:39:26 PM
  - We're going to start with an in-person meeting, but if we don't like the answers, we'll absolutely escalate* - By wolvalum September 21, 2026 at 11:41:32 PM

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Good advice. I'll add this (m)