Re whether these assholes back off when police involved, I have good friend who was being stalked by ex-bf last year

Posted on August 27, 2026 at 02:46:45 PM by ricomontoya

Got restraining order, then got it enhanced to prevent his even entering our neighborhood after he’d been doing several slow drive-bys a day. She was terrified.

I asked a good friend / long-time cop: when do these guys stop harassing/stalking? What has to happen? His answer was immediate and matter of fact. They stop only after they find someone else who they’ll eventually stalk and harass.

After six weeks or so he stopped coming around, calling her at work, emailing her boss etc etc. Guess he moved on to next.

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Girlfriend is dealing with emotional abuse and threats from her ex. She won't take any of my advice because his threats scare her.... - By Poster P August 27, 2026 at 12:55:54 PM
- Run.* - By MasterBates August 27, 2026 at 01:31:40 PM
- Is there somewhere safe she can stay, temporarily? Where he wouldn’t know to look for her? - By Craig August 27, 2026 at 01:20:42 PM
  - Re whether these assholes back off when police involved, I have good friend who was being stalked by ex-bf last year - By ricomontoya August 27, 2026 at 02:46:45 PM
- Get the courts involved no?* - By Daytripper August 27, 2026 at 01:03:09 PM
- My $.02: Get the lease broken by any means necessary and get a restraining order. - By dnvrblue August 27, 2026 at 01:02:12 PM
- She needs to get an injunction now, don't you think? - By hurryup August 27, 2026 at 01:01:05 PM
  - She's scared to do anything. It is frustrating but I try to be empathetic because she's a victim of abuse.... - By Poster P August 27, 2026 at 01:08:15 PM
    - I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that, P. And my gosh I’m so sorry to hear on her behalf too. How long have you been dating this woman? Also she’s in CA, no?* - By weebay August 27, 2026 at 01:11:48 PM
      - No. We met in Washington State. I moved to CA for a job. She doesn't want to be in Washington and is from California.... - By Poster P August 27, 2026 at 01:13:53 PM
- drunk by 8 sounds like a ticking time bomb with not much left on the clock* - By chiwalker August 27, 2026 at 01:00:56 PM
  - This. Seen a lot of real crime shows based on situations like this* - By mtb August 27, 2026 at 01:35:17 PM
- No advice but sorry she has to go through that. Sounds like he's in desperate need of rehab* - By LewisBullox August 27, 2026 at 12:59:30 PM

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Re whether these assholes back off when police involved, I have good friend who was being stalked by ex-bf last year