The Victors

Like you I have become more tolerant of others. But the danger is the potential impact on people close to them. And also ultimately with one's morals/beliefs*

Posted on September 24, 2026 at 02:27:50 PM by Rich (edited September 24, 2026 at 02:28:19 PM)

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• On Swinging and flexible monogomy... - By Beave September 24, 2026 at 01:48:47 PM
  • I've had a similar evolution - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 02:40:01 PM
    • You're right brother, everything in life is about sex.... - By jonpc September 24, 2026 at 03:32:56 PM
    • How much of swinging do you think comes from: You want to cheat? OK, if you cheat, I will cheat too so let's do this in a controlled way.* - By MasterBates September 24, 2026 at 02:42:39 PM
      • I think it is more "I love you, I want to be married to you and spend my life with you, but I'm bored. Let's spice things up."* - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 02:45:41 PM
  • I would say that fidelity is important to me personally, but I think people should do what they want, as long as they aren't hurting anyone. When someone is hurt or a victim, that pisses me off. * - By Kevin September 24, 2026 at 01:55:25 PM
    • Yes do what's best for you if you're not hurting anyone. If that involves non-traditional relationships or sex lives, good for them.* - By Beave September 24, 2026 at 01:56:38 PM
      • Like you I have become more tolerant of others. But the danger is the potential impact on people close to them. And also ultimately with one's morals/beliefs* - By Rich September 24, 2026 at 02:27:50 PM
  • I think that’s reasonable and I struggle to think there’s anything immoral about consensual non-monogamy. Different story when you introduce social dynamics that cause relational rifts.* - By WOK September 24, 2026 at 01:51:46 PM
    • The problem is that it doesn't actually work.* - By LS&Play September 24, 2026 at 01:53:14 PM
      • Half of marriages end in divorce. Who is to say what works?* - By WOK September 24, 2026 at 02:11:14 PM
        • (More like 2/5ths.)* - By ftb September 24, 2026 at 02:21:41 PM
      • That's a different conversation. What little data we have on long-term polyamorous and open relationships isn't good. - By Beave September 24, 2026 at 02:00:53 PM
        • That was what blew up my sister's marriage. She initiated the polyamory. It was all well and good until he started fucking other people, too. - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 02:50:47 PM
        • I don’t know the answer to this question: is the little data we have skewed by the fact that many ENM ppl keep this info to themselves due to social stigma? - By Craig September 24, 2026 at 02:12:38 PM
        • I can't imagine it is healthy for kids to find out their mom is getting plowed by multiple dudes while their dad watches. Or vice versa.* - By MasterBates September 24, 2026 at 02:09:19 PM
          • Possible counterpoint: is it healthy for kids to find out that dad plowed mom last night on the very couch they are now sitting on?*** - By Craig September 24, 2026 at 02:16:07 PM
            • I am sure they prefer that than mom getting plowed on that same couch by the neighbor while their dad plowed the neighbor's wife on the breakfast table high chair.*r. - By MasterBates September 24, 2026 at 02:21:02 PM
              • Ultimately they prefer to see their parents as completely asexual and don't want to think for two milliseconds about anybody plowing their mother.* - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 03:05:25 PM
          • Exactly.* - By LS&Play September 24, 2026 at 02:10:44 PM
        • I don't disagree with any of that. But it's hard for me to say "people should do whatever" when those kinds of behaviors have a much higher risk of blowing up the lives of so many people around them.* - By LS&Play September 24, 2026 at 02:04:32 PM

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