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Why do you have to be supportive? If he can’t be around alcohol, he shouldn’t be invited. Your friend is the asshole for inviting him without asking. It is crazy*

Posted on September 24, 2026 at 06:13:18 PM by BBA

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• I might be a horrible person - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 05:33:18 PM
  • I've had periods of sobriety and never once expected people not to drink around me* - By Poster P September 24, 2026 at 06:17:46 PM
    • I think it is more "Let's be supportive of his (very recent) recovery than Jason would expect no one to drink around him. - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 06:26:53 PM
      • What happened to him? Did all the bad stuff come from the drinking?* - By LS&Play September 24, 2026 at 06:28:32 PM
        • I hear it all second hand, but it sounds like it. - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 06:36:30 PM
  • Why do you have to be supportive? If he can’t be around alcohol, he shouldn’t be invited. Your friend is the asshole for inviting him without asking. It is crazy* - By BBA September 24, 2026 at 06:13:18 PM
  • lol. I’d like to bring a buddy to Thanksgiving dinner, is it cool if we don’t eat meat in front of him? - By Rabbit September 24, 2026 at 06:04:32 PM
    • LOL* - By brick September 24, 2026 at 06:39:03 PM
  • Nope, you’re right. By the way (m) - By LS&Play September 24, 2026 at 05:57:17 PM
  • As someone who has been in AA for a long time, this is on him, not you. In my early sobriety, I skipped a friend's bachelor party for this reason exactly. Have been to several later on, once I was in a good place* - By Rags September 24, 2026 at 05:54:00 PM
  • Just have to tell the friend who invited him that your relationship with the guy in recovery is not important enough to you to make it a dry trip. Harsh but true. (nm) - By suede September 24, 2026 at 05:47:03 PM
  • Swinger story day just got a little weird* - By cp September 24, 2026 at 05:46:04 PM
    • brilliant* - By Maize4 September 24, 2026 at 06:08:09 PM
  • Be honest with you friend - By el fuego September 24, 2026 at 05:45:12 PM
  • Nope. Not on you at all* - By Deezy September 24, 2026 at 05:43:02 PM
  • That doesn’t make you a bad person, imo. If I were involved I might tell the buddy who wants to invite the guy - By brick September 24, 2026 at 05:41:28 PM
    • He is the guy that brought it up and said "we would need to be conscious of not drinking in front of him."* - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 05:43:49 PM
      • Kind of ballsy to want to invite someone to your hunting cabin with the caveat that there be no drinking IMO. * - By django September 24, 2026 at 05:50:25 PM
        • To be fair, he said "How about inviting Jason?", to which a couple guys on the group chat said "fine with me." Then came the "we would need to be consacious..." caveat. - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 05:54:06 PM
      • Ooof. Kind of uncool of your friend, in my view, and I say that as someone who only drinks a little - By brick September 24, 2026 at 05:44:26 PM
  • would you be expected not to drink if he attends? - By Arctic September 24, 2026 at 05:40:13 PM
    • Yes, that would be the expectation.* - By Alpo September 24, 2026 at 05:42:51 PM
      • Well that's ridiculous. I thought you meant you just didn't want him to come because you wanted everyone to get drunk. - By LewisBullox September 24, 2026 at 06:08:32 PM
  • I mean it's on the alkie to control himself imo, and he knows if he comes there will be drinking. It's not on you* - By Daytripper September 24, 2026 at 05:38:52 PM

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